Why you should date a man who travels but not a woman….?
I feel like this is a stupid debate I need to weigh in on because two well-respected blog/news sources have reported two VERY different perspectives on this. (I have sited the links to the articles below)
Huffington Post says you should date a man who travels for the following reasons (these are just a few):
- You might find him in an airport or at a book store browsing the travel guides — although he “only uses them for reference”.
- Date a boy who’s lived out of a backpack because he lives happily with less.
- This boy relishes home; the comfort of a duvet, the safety stirred in a mom-cooked meal, the easy conversation of childhood friends, and the immaculate glory of the flush-toilet.
- Don’t hold onto this boy. Let this boy go and go with him. If you haven’t traveled, he will open your eyes to a world beyond the news and popular perception.
- He will live in every moment with you because this is how he lives his life.
- Find a boy who travels because you deserve a life of adventure and possibility. You deserve to live light and embrace simplicity. You deserve to look at life through the eyes of youth and with your arms wide open. Because this is where you will find joy. And better, you will find joy together. And if you can’t find him, travel. Go. Embrace it. Explore the world for yourself because dreams are the stuff reality is made from.
Per Matador Network, you should NOT date a woman (or “girl” as they state) who travels because of the following (again, just a few examples):
- Don’t date a girl who travels. She is hard to please.
- Chances are, she can’t hold a steady job. Or she’s probably daydreaming about quitting. – As a side note, the first part Emphatically NOT true, the second part, true.
- Don’t date a girl who travels. She might have wasted her college degree and switched careers entirely. She is now a dive instructor or a yoga teacher.
- Don’t date a girl who travels, for she has chosen a life of uncertainty. She doesn’t have a plan or a permanent address. She goes with the flow and follows her heart.
- Don’t date a girl who travels, as she tends to speak her mind.
- She will never need you. She knows how to pitch a tent and screw her own fins without your help.
- So never date a girl who travels unless you can keep up with her. And if you unintentionally fall in love with one, don’t you dare keep her. Let her go.
Ok, so that was some SERIOUS bullshit. Last time I checked this was the 21st century and we aren’t locked into draconian gender roles anymore……
Why is it ok for a man to have the traits associated with travel and wanderlust and that makes them desirable but when women have those traits it’s taken as a huge negative? I honestly can’t tell if Matador wrote this as a farce but it’s pretty freaking offensive. I have personally been told that the fact I have traveled the world so much and done so much of it solo is a huge plus on a guy’s check list.
Yes, some men still want the 1950s dream of a housewife who is subjugated only to them however more and more men are coming out and identifying as feminists and thus empowering women of their peer group to do all the things they are doing and to not be admonished for it.
To Matador, let me inform you of the following
- Because I have traveled. I am very easy to please. It does not take a lot to make me happy. I spend many a night when I am not traveling simply reading or writing. I’m not sure how much more low maintenance I can get…
- First and foremost it should be stated that the economy over the last almost 10 years has made it hard for millions of people to hold jobs. Having wanderlust has little to no effect on this.
- I have a degree in history and marketing. Some might call that a waste. But I am the youngest manager at a 60-year-old company and the only female to work directly with the board of directors. And seriously what’s wrong with being a yoga teacher if that’s their dream?
- Life is uncertain whether you want it to be or not. Stop acting like everything is set in stone.
- GOD FORBID that I should ever say what’s on my mind… Let me go find a convent and take a vow of silence…
- No, I don’t need a man, but NEEDING and WANTING are two very different things.
- I can’t even formulate a rebuttal to the last one because it is so fucking stupid!